Bilal . Wani

How to Master Contacting !

2010-12-21T23:42:00.000-08:00

Walking up to people you don't know and striking up conversation is the social equivalent of skydiving. It's fun, interesting, and risky. And it will change your life. You’ll meet new people every day, you’ll give yourself control over your social and love life, and you’ll experience firsthand the joy of living dangerously. But how do you go from sitting in front of a computer to habitually starting conversations with strangers on a daily basis? If you make the effort despite your fears about talking to strangers, you might accidentally have the time of your life. Read on, aspiring social skydiver, read on....

Let go of your ego. Prepare to be ignored. Prepare to be brushed off in a dramatic fashion. But also prepare to meet (and possibly date) people of unique vintage and beauty. When you take the risk of talking to someone you don’t know, rejection is certainly a possibility. But failure is exciting–-it’s a chance to learn and improve. So when you're out and about, leave the ego behind and keep the following in mind:
- People don’t bite. A lot of people are really open to conversation. In fact, you’d be amazed at how many people will be practically overjoyed that you came and talked to them, as if they’ve been waiting for you to approach them.
- Rejection is no big deal. This can't be emphasized enough. Still, fear of rejection will be the main reason why people don’t go out and try this. If you are willing to get rejected, brush it off and keep going. You will have an awesome life. Period.
- The people around you aren’t watching you approach strangers. And, even when they are, it’s usually in shock and awe, rather than because they’re laughing at you.
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Keep your conversations fairly organic. Don't come in with “canned material”, “nuclear attraction” routines, or other social robotics. The best way to make a connection with someone is to come from the heart and live fully in the moment. What you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it. Socializing is about exchanging energy, not being a wordsmith. When in doubt, just say “Hi”. If you’ve never done this before, you may get brushed off several, even dozens of times until you get really comfortable being yourself in front of other people.
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Try beginning with an experience that you and the stranger are both experiencing together. Perhaps a baby is crying annoyingly in the room or you and the stranger are at the theater, walking out of a really bad movie. Use these shared experiences to create conversation starting questions or statements. Breaking the ice is easier when you can create a connection with the stranger. Also, they will likely already have an opinion on the matter to share in response.
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If you’re still terrified by the idea of talking to strangers, challenge yourself to talk to one stranger a day, every day, for 30 days. If you’re walking past someone on the sidewalk, say “Hi”, and the person looks at you and keeps walking (done that many times), your job is done for the day. If you walk up to a girl in a club and say “Hey!”, and she responds, with a slightly grossed out look “I have a boyfriend.”, congratulations, you’re one step closer to improving your love life. The point of this exercise is to get you used to talking to people you don’t know and form the habit ofbeing more social.
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Go out to social events by yourself. That’s right. Don’t invite anyone along. No one needs to know where you’re going. You don’t need permission from your girlfriend or boyfriend. You just need to choose to make right now a lot more exciting than yesterday. Your goal for this outing should be just one simple thing: Amuse yourself. You don’t need to get any phone numbers. In fact, you don't need to make any guarantees that you’ll actually talk to anyone. Don’t scare yourself into submission before you’ve even left the house. If you claim you “can’t find anything good” you may not be looking hard enough. There are many opportunities for improving your social suaveness in most towns and cities:
- Art Shows
- Book Readings
- Rock Concerts
- Museum Exhibitions
- “Beginners Night” Dance Classes
- Speed Dating
- Outdoor Festivals
- Geek Gatherings
- Parades/Rallies/Protests
- Night Clubs

Mohit - A wonderful downline - Write his experience

2010-12-14T00:41:00.000-08:00

Hello Babu*Sonika,

When I was going to the trip down memory lane today I found out that,It was on 13th December last year,when Bilal did my Follow up on a Sunday Evening and I got registered in the Business with 160 PV(actually I wanted to start at 100 PV but bilal converted it to 160 PV smartly).I was not aware of the fact that the decision I took that day with a little skeptism and a little hope can change my entire life by 360 degrees.

Since then I came to be in touch with people like you Senthil*Cheranya, Anand, Ankit, Bilal*Nuzhat, Sam*Minati, Kashyap*Pranati, Ankur*Taru in my LOS and other people in the business too(downlines and crosslines).I started my journey with somewhat different intentions(totally Vitamin 'M' minded),but as I grew in the business the priorities change and making myself a better "I" took topmost priority.When I was seeing myself today, I find that their are lot of changes that happened in me and my life, which emerged me as a better person then what I was one year ago.

I faced lots of challenges,enjoyed lots of cherishing moments and saw the roller coaster of business and life both in this one year.In fact it was the constant support,belief,love and care of all my uplines which kept me steady in the business and gave me hope of moving ahead and constanly increased my belief level about the business and system also.

It was this year which gave me a vision to think about my financial future,to understand who will be my true friend in the journey of life which include freedom and finance as major parameters to drive ahead and it was this year which helped me understand human nature in much better way by being in contact with people from all background of the society and from all different places.

It was this year which gave me options to explore multiple avenues and think out of the box to get success in different aspects of life and business.It was this year which gave a boost up to my relationships and behavior with people around me and helped me in emerging out as a better human being.It was this year which implanted in me the seeds of massive success which have started blossoming and soon will convert to a tree giving shelter to many others also.

I always wanted to start my own business as job was not my cup of tea in long run and this idea got solidified when I started hating my first job within the first three months but was forced to continue the same due to lack of proper opportunity.But on the other hand was not knowing that their lies this business opportunity also in the world where one can enjoy life to the fullest and leave his/her footmarks afterwards.I sincerely thanks to Sandeep,Sam and Bilal who came as a blessing in my life on 13-12-2009 and made me realize the importance of this busines in a proper way and I took a decision which I will
be cherishing for the rest of the life also.

This one year is just a starting or transforming phase,the real essence is about to come in coming days when I will blast this business in all 28 states of the country(All 28 states of India will have minimum one Platinum from my business organization in coming decade).

May GOD sprinkle his blessings in the form of my uplines in coming years also,with whom support we will have blasting life and business both.

Thanks to all for being a part of my Life and adding value to it.

Fired Up............

Thanks and Regards,

Mohit Kumar Jain

Brand new 9% in Nov-2010 with one more 9% in my LOS

Qualifying 12% in December-2010…………….a done deal

Breaking a new 9% in December-2010 in my LOS………..a done deal

Eagle by 31-December-2010............a done deal

5 STP/5 Demo per week………….a done deal

Retirement from Job…….31-12-2012………………….a done deal

Wake Up - Mr. Young Kashmiri

2010-12-10T01:09:00.000-08:00

Yes, I am angry. I hate the mediocre expression in any form what-so-ever.

I am talking about the news from Kashmir Valley posted today 10-Dec-2010.

Refer to : http://www.greaterkashmir.com/ShowStoryLatest.asp?NewsID=1460

I want to talk about innovative initiative of true examination paper set by Mr. Noor Ahmed Bhat. He should be appreciated for setting the examination paper in a way where everyone could answer. As there was absolutely no wrong way to answer his question. Isn't that a novel way for putting up a question paper. I definitely feel, yet it is.

The youth of Kashmir is showing the signs of deprived zeal for excellence and innovation. It seems the only change in whole universe for them is Azaadi. By the way I do demand Azaadi but that is not everything for me.

If I would have been sitting in the chair of any person who has the power to deal with such situation, I would have definitely rewarded Mr. Noor Ahmed Bhat for showing me a glipse of alive soul and intellectual brain. Presently Kashmir needs a HOPE that such things are signs of progress. Lets not answer everything with stones and anger. Lets learn to appreciate the change.

Wow, I heard lot of people in Kashmir speaking about Change during presidential campaign of Barak Obama and the words like 'Yes We Can', but seems change for Kashmir is having entirely different meaning. So sad.

I strongly support such initiative and I want people to support it too. Lets appreciate him - Mr. Noor Ahmed, and lets learn to progress. It is painful for me to see that he has been arrested.

Can we raise some voice. Lets bring some hope to youth, they definitely need some exposure and right mentor-ship. They are the real power of Kashmir, and need right direction and proper counselling.

B R O K E N

2009-08-12T02:32:00.000-07:00

The post you should never miss,
Coming Soon ...

TIME 'n' TOGETHERNESS

2009-04-25T23:28:00.000-07:00

Time, damn shit! Who cares whether time follows me or I follow it, how the hell it is going to make any difference.
Togetherness, well it depends. Sometimes presence of cherished one also seems irritating, and at some instances even a stranger seems to make your moment of life.

Now how do ‘TIME’ and “TOGHETERNESS’ connect. Feelings are the most important elements of nature. It is how and when you feel, that connects them. It may generate a strong debate if we say feeling of separation and isolation is far intense than the feeling of togetherness or unison. It is natural to feel so.

It won’t be unwise to think or assume Michael Joseph Jackson, nicknamed Michael Jackson would have great wounds in heart about being accused of child sexual abuse in 1993 rather then being satisfied and contended for his mega hit solo albums like Off the wall (1979), Thriller(1982), Bad (1987), History (1995) and my favourite DANGEROUS (1991).

What else it could be other than feeling of separation, isolation and a strange scruple of soul that would lead someone like Michael Jackson to seek peace and solace in something like religion that too most criticized and happening one like ISLAM. Eventually he embraced Islam in Nov, 2008 and named himself as Micheel. I just want to ask why didn’t he felt the need of such things when he was at the pinnacle of his fame? Well, you may conclude it by saying it is nothing but natural. But it has some resemblance with time and togetherness. You think so?

TIME and TOGHETHERNESS always play hide and seek game in our lives. It is time alone that can make you realize your successes and failures of life. It is time alone that can differentiate friend from a best friend and a lover from an admirer. I am yet to witness the true moment of togetherness when two souls merge leaving no contact with Einstein’s existential frames of references, when even Newton’s famous laws of gravitation seem meaningless.

I am speaking about togetherness where MOZART’s symphonies connect with tunes of Mozart of Madras – A. R. Rehman, and where A. R. Rehman embeds music with naïve intellectual bits from Gulzaar. When such things come together people do witness unique moment of their lifetime where even WORDS render meaningless.

“You say it best, when you nothing at all” – a touching line from Alison Kraus; does help me to re-establish my threads with ‘TIME’ and ‘TOGHETHERNESS’. Well I didn’t tell you about Alison, she is an American bluegrass country singer and fiddler. She has won many grammy awards but the song “You say it best, when you say nothing at all” remains my favourite till date. Her soft voice definitely will put you on the rails of nostalgia and would lead you somewhere where your Togetherness brought you better times.

When things don’t seem to go your way, when time doesn’t help to bring in the togetherness, or when togetherness doesn’t seem to bring the good times, then simply relax and listen to “Don’t worry, be happy” by Bobby McFerrin.

The Place Where Ending Begins !!!

2008-07-31T05:06:00.000-07:00

When I wrote the title, little do I know I have to transform whole mindset to continue my story.
The fascinating term "ENDING BEGINS", a controversial phrase for many and bit confusing too.

For the first time I am expressing myself about my Land. It is not a story it is reality and now a History. Kashmir is burning, Jammu is fuming, India is cluelessly silent, and Pakistan sees an Opportunity.

Whom should I keep the protagonist? Well not a difficult choice; it will always be my people, My KASHMIR.
There is no doubt about the fact that people in Kashmir have paid the price every time, and results have never been the way they would have cherished.
Before I begin to re-trace the pages of recent turmoil in Valley, let me begin from end. (Place where Ending Begins).

----------------- Curtains Up -----------------

"Today is the great day in the history of Kashmir. Today people have witnessed their much awaited and most cherished dream 'The Independent Kashmir'", some political figure would proudly announce it. It would be some thing very new for people of Kashmir, but for History it is yet another chapter.

So the people of Kashmir how do you want to proceed from here? Would you like to be ruled by APHC or someone else? Will there be political fight for power, and would there be more killings. Mind it these killings would be much worse than existing killings. You won't be fighting any enemy but your own people.

What would we (people of Kashmir) look for? Would anyone utter, "We were better off before atleast we had some enemy to fight against". Would it be possible to push "GUN Culture" out of Kashmir over night? Do we really think on these lines?

O oo, well don't judge me as pessimistic. I just want to be more informed and much aware. I don't think people of Kashmir have really matured in terms of constructive approach. But as I always believed, we the people of Kashmir can do wonders if we really wish to. There is nothing we lack except a honest will. An independent Kashmir would be nothing but yet another Pakistan minus Mohd. Ali Jinnah.

(Will continue later, getting late now...)

SHE said Good Bye - PART - III

2008-07-31T03:41:00.000-07:00

( Please read Part-I and Part-II first )

It was poetry to watch her taking dinner. I don't know about you but to me foreigners appear very stylish and I enjoy there soft movements. I almost forgot that I was actually gazing at her like a open mouthed mad dog. "What" - "What are you looking at?" -
"Nothing", a delayed answer from me. I was almost done but she was yet to finish, don't be mistaken I actually took twice the quantity but she is bit slow or may be it is her style.

Well, dinner was over and guess what we were talking endlessly. Her never ending questions and my over exaggerated answers kept us oblivious about passing time. She asked me about "SHE".
Who is "SHE" who made you take all such steps in life? Why did you follow her?

I kept brooding over it, I was really thinking how to express myself in the manner to be understood by everyone. It was not easy to explain "SHE", and at the same time I wanted all those ( who are interested in knowing who "SHE" is ) to be unconventionally and very pure in understanding their inner self.

Well "SHE" is ...
SHE can be as small as the piece of food stuck in your teeth which generates the impulse of discomfort as happened to me when I was in party, SHE was there in my teeth and actually I was desperately looking for a toothpick. So I was searching every where. It is all about having experienced such small things.

SHE is,
the determination and strange kind of desire which actually helped me to believe I can go alone across 4000 miles from Kashmir to Bangalore to pursue my ambitions.

SHE is,
the Dream, which made me think about EAO (http://www.eaokashmir.esmartdesign.com/), she is faith that some day the dream will come true.

SHE is,
the uneasiness and discomfort in me which excites me to adopt the new changes, which excites me to blog.

SHE is,
the feeling of closeness when I am with her.

SHE is,
Sometimes a great to bear, she makes you really cry. She makes you feel you are just nothing, very small than the smallest insect on earth.

SHE is,
nothing but someone inside all of us.

Look in you, "SHE" is there, listen her, love her.

"Could you please accompany me to my room #208", a killing soft request.
She was lost somewhere, perhaps she found her "SHE". We reached the door #208, she opened it, she entered, she looked into my eyes, and said
"GOOD BYE"
SHE strikes again, but life continues ....

-------------- The End --------------------

She Said Good Bye - PART - II

2008-07-22T07:25:00.000-07:00

(Well if you are here without reading "She Said Good Bye - Part-I, then definitely you miss a right start).

"Can you pass on the glass of water please", a polite request from her jolted me from my fantasies. I passed her the water. "Thanks", I heard her saying it. It was now 8:30 pm, I was feeling bit hungry as I didn't had the chance to take lunch in afternoon. To my surprise she directly asked me, "Why do you look disturbed". I wonder how bad I had been in acting. I had used all my nerves to hide my discomfort and uneasiness, but girls are best at picking such notes.

"Well, nothing", I said - a usual reply to hide something. Her dressing was awesome, I am not good at describing the art of dressing, but her skin and dress was obviously in the enough proportion to take me to the heights of my devilish privileges. I think no boy wants to miss that out and I didn't want to set an outstanding example at least in the matters like these. It was conscious effort to time my eye balls over different parts of beautiful dressing and skin show. You should be very accurate at such occasions, perhaps girls like it but I am not sure.

It hurts like when something undesirable happens at desired time. Somewhat like the feeling when your shoe starts aching you during an adventurous journey. I am sure you might have come across such experiences in life. It was same thing, "SHE" -again made her presence felt. This time I hated "HER" like never before.

It was now 9:30 pm, a dinner time. Even beyond my imagination limits she took my hand in her hands, and pulled me almost as if I was resisting to go for dinner. Actually we guyz do take food bit seriously than girls. Comparing these two at some occasions won't be easy for us, hope boys will agree to this.
Dinner was tasty and I tried stop just before my limits, but ended in breaking them all as usual. "Why guyz cannot resist the food temptations"...

Dinner was over, and a BUZZ shook my arm, "Oh - Gosh, it is her Birthday Tomorrow" - An alarm on my wrist watch has this pointer. But what is it, oh God I missed it again, it was two days before. How on earth I can repeat the mistake this year too. I accept I am duffer...

(Have to stop here, running out of time ... Will be back shortly).

She said Good Bye - PART - I

2008-07-18T03:13:00.000-07:00

There are the times when you feel broken and torn into millions of parts. Well, most of time we keep ourselves busy with one or other activity but does it really bring any fulfillment to our life?
I keep on asking this question to myself time and again.

Why 'SHE' , why couldn't we continue ?

Before you reach to any conclusion about 'SHE' let me make it clear 'SHE' is NOT any GIRL.
She drove me out of my hometown first, then out of my city and later out of my state. What next I don't know..

I am sure it might have happened to you as well many times, some things are just bound to happen. Inspite of your efforts you cannot stop it and unconsciously you will be supporting it. This keeps on happening to me as well.

I was irritated almost restless after that party, there were many nice people around, few beautifully attractive faces as well. But don't know why I couldn't rest my eyes any where. I was looking for something.

A girl, not Indian, was coming to my side. Her every step was actually increasing my heartbeat, I looked around espcially backwards to ensure I am not mistaken. There was no one, it was only me. After a usual introduction I found I was little over conscious and telling something I actually didn't need to. Perhaps somewhere inside we do try to impress others in first meeting.
We kept talking nicely for a while, but a strange uneasiness was constantly disturbing me - yes it was 'SHE'.

It was a genuine effort to ignore HER for the sake of beauty sitting beside me. She kept on saying her incidents as if it was long time since she found any listener. Don't know why but I was not actually speaking anything, not sure whether I missed any thread to get started. It was soothing to hear her, but for the contents of conversation my mind was becoming a rebel. I was telling myself switch off intellect please, it is something else; stop it.

It was around 8:00 pm and a good time of my life. It is exciting when someone approaches you and you start having a conversation with someone whose presence catches your inner self. What adds to excitement is the fact it was our first meeting ...

......... Running out of time now, will continue it later .....

My Friend Asks about Kashmir Growth Aspects

2008-07-14T22:11:00.000-07:00

There are many Kashmiris working in Bangalore - silicon city of India. Bangalore truly drives the IT industry not only Asia but the whole world. Plenty of multinational companies (MNC) are operating in Bangalore. Proudly Kashmiri youth is every where and well settled.

Coming back to the question my friend asked me today (15th July, 2008) morning, "Can these IT engineers of Kashmir bring some growth prospects to Kashmir Valley".

Well, in morning I was bit busy and couldn't explain him. I think there are few obstacles in bringing better business or growth opportunities to Kashmir Valley. First being no outsider can setup any industrial unit in valley; this pushes the responsibility on the shoulders of Kashmiri people to come forward and take initiatives.

Second reason is Teaming ( already discussed in my previous blog ). We should understand and practise the value of working as a team. There are plenty of opportunity open in valley for the youth. Things have changed so should the people and their outlook. The first question is reduce the dependency on government jobs. Even government has many policies in place to help people. It is just matter of exploring the new world.

The best thing about working here (Bangalore) is the kind of exposure and experience we get about how an enterprise needs to be run. How to setup a business venture and underlying processes quite necessary to be implemented. A vision is modelled here.

I think it is great experience, lets see if there is a chance to make all this count for our Dear Kashmir.

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Politics, Progress and People

2008-07-14T04:28:00.000-07:00

It has been nice to witness few better changes in Kashmir. I am a common voice, not biased by any influence neither I care for my own identity. I feel proud and fortunate enough to be part of the beautiful peace of heaven - KASHMIR.

There are many things to feel proud about:
1. Our Social Values:
There still exists great bonding among neighbours and fellow country men. It has been strangely true that people who are away from Kashmir for one or other reason turn truly Kashmiris.

2. Beautiful Piece of Land:
Kashmir undoubted is most beautiful piece of land. Living in it itself is great feeling. Nature has crafted it to perfection, but we are majorly responsible for its economic and political breakdown.

3. Educational Excellence:
I never had any doubt about the capabilities of Kashmiri youth. They are competent but nicely misguided by material and showy stuff. This, atleast I suppose, is the major reason why we have a situation like this. Given a positive frame of global outlook, I am pretty much sure we can excel.

I again repeat, we are worst at helping each other...

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My Insight about People of Kashmir

2008-07-11T04:11:00.000-07:00

I have always believed the maturity of mind and education of people of kashmir. They are good at creating their own worlds. But there are many things which always made me think a lot.

First, I never understood why Kashmiri people don't believe in TEAMING. You will hardly find groups there. It is always about an individual. So far comparing the valley people with rest of the world, I don't feel shy in quoting that Kashmiri people are self oriented and do NOT care much about anything else whether it your town, city or country.

Their educational standard is among the best in India. The literacy rate of Kashmir is around 70% now. They are almost in every developed part of the world. Excellent businessmen, lawyers, doctors, administrators but 'INDIVIDUALS'.

I end up with asking to my people (KASHMIRIS), WHY IS IT SO?

2007-07-09T00:21:00.000-07:00

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